An expert guide on how to use bullet sex toys, vibrators and small vibrators. Plus, the best bullet sex toys for all budgets.

All hail the humble but mighty bullet

By Paisley Gilmour and Lois ShearingUpdated: 05 September 2023 - The silent vibrators you need in your life RN

Bullet sex toys and vibrators are pretty petite compared to rabbit vibrators or wand vibrators, but that doesn’t mean they can’t make a serious impact. “Because of their shape, they’re great for really precise stimulation and focusing vibrations exactly where you want them most,” Cole says.

Ashley Armitage / Refinery29 for Getty Images//Getty ImagesSo, while many people will use bullet vibrators directly against their clitoral hood or clitoris, depending on how sensitive their anatomy is, you can actually use it elsewhere, too. “Try tracing the tip all over your vulva to discover brand new sweet spots that aren’t just the tip of the clitoris,” she says. In short, take some time experimenting with what feels good for you.

Use bullet sex toys and vibrators on other body parts, too

Despite being small, bullet vibrators don’t just have to be used on your clit - exploring other areas can height arousal and even help lead to a more powerful orgasm. “Try pressing the vibrator against your other erogenous zones, such as your nipples, inner thighs, or perineum you know, that bit of flesh between your vagina and butt,” says Cole.

“A word of warning, though - because of their shape, most bullet vibes aren’t safe for anal use because they don’t have a flared base, which means they could get lost inside, so keep your explorations external.”

Don’t just use the tip of the bullet sex toy

Most people will masturbate with a bullet vibrator by placing just the tip of the toy against their clit, but Sammi explains there are other ways to use a bullet that help maximise its pleasure potential.

“Hold it horizontally,” she says, “and you can enjoy vibrations across a broader area. This is particularly great if your genitals are quite sensitive, and/or if you prefer less intense stimulation.”

Lube is your best friend

There’s still a weird stigma surrounding lube - the idea that it’s somehow a bad reflection on you if you use it, and that you should naturally be “wet enough”. This is such a harmful misconception, FYI, and totally not based in the facts. How wet you get can be affected by everything from your hormones to how much time you have to get aroused. There should be no shame in using lubricant: not only does it make everything feel better, it helps prevent soreness and injury, too. Cole says; “A good lubricant enhances any sexual experience, be it with a sex toy or with a partner.”

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Vary the speed and pattern

Entry-level bullet vibrators often have an on/off switch with one speed option, but there are loads of affordable options that offer a range.

“Lots of bullets come with a variety of speeds and functions so you can tailor the experience to exactly fit your needs. Some people like a gentle rumble from their toy, while others prefer more power and alternative vibration patterns,” Cole says.

No matter what, we’re guessing there’s a bullet for your budget and preference.

How to choose the best bullet sex toy or vibrator for you

There’s a whole range of bullets out there, from affordable and straightforward, to full lux with all the bells and whistles. If it’s your first time using a bullet, try something simple and low-cost until you figure out what you like. Here’s a few of our fave picks for a range of prices and styles:

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How to use a bullet vibrator with a partner

If you haven’t introduced sex toys into partnered play before, it can feel a little intimidating and daunting. But a bullet is a good toy to start with as they’re so small. Ask your partner if they’d be into it and, and if they say yes, request that they hold the toy lightly against your clitoris and then instruct them as they move it around and increase the speed.

“Hold them against your clitoris during penetrative sex to increase your chance of orgasm,” Cole recommends, “or, if your partner has a penis, try using the bullet on their balls or perineum while you give them a blow job.”

You can also get some pretty cool vibrating knickers (they have a built in pouch where you can slip a bullet vibrator and wear them out in public, if that’s what you’re into).

Lovehoney Lovehoney Plus Size Hot Date 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Knickers

£39.99 at Lovehoney

Using waterproof bullet sex toys and vibrators in the bath or shower

Want to have a bit of ‘you time’ in the bath or shower? “There are tons of waterproof bullets out there which are perfect for bath or shower play. To make sure yours is safe for taking into the bathroom, check the description on the packaging or online. It needs to say ‘submersible’, not just ‘splashproof’,” Cole says.

The Desire Luxury bullet sex toy is waterproof and rechargeable, comes with a carry case and is super powerful!

Lovehoney Desire Desire Luxury Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

£59.99 at Lovehoney And remember: water doesn’t make an appropriate lube (Too thin! Always disappears!). So go for a long-lasting lube that’s safe to use with your sex toy - never use silicone toys with silicone lube, instead use water-based lube so it doesn’t react badly.

Now all that info is covered, all that’s left to do is to enjoy what bullet vibes and other small vibrators have to offer…

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Paisley GilmourFormer Sex & Relationships Editor Paisley is the former Sex and Relationships editor at Cosmopolitan UK. She covers everything from sex toys, how to masturbate and sex positions, to all things LGBTQ. She definitely reveals too much about her personal life on the Internet.

Lois ShearingFormer Senior Sex and Relationship WriterLois Shearing is Cosmoplitan’s Former Senior Sex and Relationship Writer. They have been writing about sex, sexuality, gender, politics, and relationships for almost ten years. Their writing on these topics has appeared in Mashable, The Independent, Metro, The Advocate, and Byline Times, among others. In 2021, they published their first book, Bi the Way with JKP. They are currently working on two other books, set to be published in 2024. In a previous life, they worked as a content marketer and content writer for various tech start-ups. They continue to be interested in the tech sector and its impact on our lives, relationships, and work, with particular regard to the ways AI will shape our relationships in the future. Outside of work, they are deeply passionate about queer community organising, and run the only support resource for bisexual survivors of sexual violence in the UK: the Bi Survivors Network. You can find them on Instagram and X.

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