How to Use a Vibrator With a Partner: Bullet Rabbit Wand & More

If you want to know how to use a vibrator with a partner and you’re not sure which toy to choose, here are 8 types of vibrators you can use during sex.
Find out how to use each one for maximum orgasmic results.
By Ro WhitePublished: May 20, 2022 12:16 PM EDT Bullet vibrators are small and discreet, so they don’t take up too much space when you’re smashing bodies together. Plus, they’re versatile. Hold a bullet vibrator against your partner’s clitoris during intercourse. Run it along your partner’s labia and clitoris while you stimulate their vagina with your fingers. Pop it inside any strap-on harness with a built-in pocket to give the thruster some extra simulation. Run a bullet vibrator along the penis shaft or testicles. Some cock rings even include bullet vibrator attachments, so you can use them during P-in-V sex for hands-free clitoral stimulation.
Bullet vibrators can seriously upgrade your oral sex game, too. “You can take a little vibe that fits on your finger and use it along with your tongue for some next-level oral sex,” Deysach suggests.
For this purpose and more, Fine recommends the rechargeable Fin finger vibrator, which comes with a detachable finger tether.
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How to Use a Wand Vibrator
If you and your partner need a toy that will blast your bits into space, a wand vibrator will take you there. With their powerful motors and their ability to cover a lot of surface area, wand vibrators are ideal for external use on any erogenous zone, and you can also purchase attachments for penetration. Wands tend to be on the heavier side, so they’re not ideal for people with low grip strength or wrist pain unless you plan to use a wand mount.Hold a wand against your partner’s clitoris during P-in-V sex or hold it against their whole vulva to stimulate the internal “arms” of the clitoris. Hold a wand against your partner’s anus or your own—intense, external vibration can help those booty muscles relax before you attempt any in-the-butt stuff. You can even pop a Hummingbird masturbator attachment onto your wand to turn it into a penis stroker.For adventurous couples, wands are perfect for edging and orgasm torture. “You can tie your partner up and use a vibrator on them for some kinky play,” Fine explains.
If you want to stick with the classics, snag a Hitachi Magic Wand, which was originally marketed as a “massage device” (yeah, sure) in the ‘70s. The updated model—the Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable—has four vibration patterns and four intensities. Unlike most rechargeable sex toys, you can use the Magic Wand while it’s charging, so you never have to wait around for your toy to power up.
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How to Use a Dual-Stimulation (or “Rabbit”) Vibrator
Dual-stimulation vibrators provide vaginal and clitoral stimulation (or in some cases, anal and perineum stimulation) at the same time. Sometimes they’re called “rabbits,” thanks to the wildly popular Rabbit Habbit, a vibrating, rotating G-spot stimulator that includes a clit-tickling bunny. If bringing bunny ears into the bedroom doesn’t rev your engine, don’t worry—dual-stimulation toys come in all kinds of ear-free configurations. Fine suggests incorporating a dual-stimulation vibrator into mutual masturbation, which can be part of foreplay or the main event.
Fun Factory’s Miss Bi is curved for easy G-spot access, and the external portion is wide and flat for full clitoral coverage. It even has two motors that can be controlled separately.
Fun Factory Miss Bi
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How to Use a Suction Vibrator
While suction toys technically aren’t vibrators, they serve a similar purpose. Clitoral vibrators are designed to press against the external clitoris, whereas suction toys envelop the external clitoris and deliver gentle air pulses that mimic the sensations of cunnilingus.
These toys are lightweight and often have longer handles, so they’re easy to hold in place during P-in-V intercourse or any other kind of penetration. If you or your partner enjoy intense nipple stimulation, you can use a suction toy on your top half, too.
The Satisfyer Pro 2 offers 11 different intensities. It even has a “whisper mode” option in case you and your partner have to keep quiet.
Satisfyer Pro 2
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How to Use a G-spot Vibrator
You’ve probably heard of the G-spot, a pleasure center that’s about two inches inside the vagina on the front of the vaginal wall. This area craves intense stimulation, which typically requires more pressure than a penis can provide. That’s where an internal G-spot vibrator comes into play. “For many vagina-havers, putting pressure on the front wall of the vagina can be a really yummy sensation and sex toys designed for G-Spot stimulation can be a real help in finding that spot,” Deysach says.
You can penetrate your partner with a G-spot vibrator while performing oral sex or you can use it externally anywhere on the body. You can also use a G-spot toy in combination with anal penetration. “If you are engaging in anal sex and the receptive partner has a vagina, G-spot vibes can make double penetration a fun reality,” Deysach explains.
Look for a G-spot vibrator with a curved shape to help you easily access the front of the vaginal wall. Lelo’s Gigi 2 has a curved shaft and a flat head that can provide both internal and external stimulation. And remember—don’t put any internal toys in a butt unless they have a wide base. Otherwise, your hot romp could end in a hospital trip.
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How to Use a Vibrating Butt Plug
Almost everybody has an anus, which means that vibrating butt plugs provide near-universal pleasure. These toys can provide hands-free stimulation in the backdoor while you and your partner engage in P-in-V intercourse, give and receive oral sex, stimulate each other with your fingers, or play around with bondage and spanking. You can also use vibrating butt plugs to prepare the body for anal sex. Some vibrating butt plugs are specifically designed to stimulate the prostate or the G-spot (those usually have a sharp curve), while others have a more bulbous shape. No matter what size or shape you choose, remember to always use lube with anal toys. Unlike vaginas, butts don’t self-lubricate, and engaging in anal play without lube could result in injury.
The B-Vibe Rimming Plug 2 comes with a remote, so you can easily change the settings for yourself or your partner. The wide stem contains rotating beads that stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in and around the anus.
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How to Use a Wearable Vibrator
Wearable vibrators are perfect for hands-free clitoral stimulation during sex, and since some of them can be operated with an app or a remote, you can use them outside of the bedroom, too. “The biggest benefit of wearable, remote-controlled, or app-controlled vibrators is being able to turn them on while your partner is doing an activity, such as the dishes,” Fine says. If you go this route, the dishes probably won’t get done, but your partner definitely will.
If you’re in a long-distance relationship, an app-controlled, wearable vibrator can keep the spark alive when you’re apart. Ask your partner to wear the vibrator at a specific time. Then log into the app and take them for a ride.
The We-Vibe Chorus is an app-controlled or remote-controlled clitoral vibrator that “clips” onto the front of the vaginal wall. The internal portion is small and flat, so the Chorus can be worn during P-in-V intercourse or penetration with fingers. And thanks to the Chorus’ app-control function, you can even make your partner climax from across the world.
We-Vibe Chorus
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How to Use a Penis Vibrator
You can technically use any vibrator on a penis, according to Deysach, but if you’re looking for a toy specifically designed for penis-havers, they’re out there. Some penis vibrators only stimulate the head of the penis, while others wrap around the shaft. You can use a penis vibrator during mutual masturbation or in combination with anal penetration.
The Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo wraps around the penis and delivers vibration with an oscillating plate. In a missionary or cowgirl sex position, a vulva-owning partner can grind against the other side of the toy and get off on the vibration, too.
Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo
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